Thanks for taking the Quirks Quiz!

I’m Kathy Courchene, and I created the Quiz because these are themes I’ve seen in clients (and in myself!) over many years. You may have thought of yourself as an “isolated case of the Weird,” but rest assured that you’re in good company. The Quirks Quiz is designed to let you know that.

I hope you enjoyed taking it, but mostly I hope you got some little aha! moments along the way.

You already got the very short descriptions of your Q-factors right after you took the Quiz, but now you can read the full descriptions of them below.

My guess is that if you recognize yourself strongly in any of these Q-factors, you’ve probably felt out-of-sync with other people–often to an uncomfortable degree.

I remember how I felt before I was able to fully embrace my own quirky self — How do I fit in? How can I fit in? Do I even WANT to fit in? What does that even mean??

I’m also guessing that if you’re a bright, intense, sensitive, quirky person, you’ve tried to cope with your discomfort by repeatedly filing down the corners of your square-peg-self, or turned the level of your volume or brightness way down, or put on some camouflage that just really doesn’t look great on you…

The truth is, there’s nothing wrong with your brilliance, your intensity, your sensitivity, or your quirkiness! These are not things that need fixing; you can be yourself AND find a good fit in the world.

“Fitting in” does not equal “Blending in.”

Let that sink in for a minute.

What if that’s true? What if that could be your reality?

I’d sure like that for you, so I’m offering you the opportunity to talk with me about that in an Authentic YOU Breakthrough Session. During this session, we’ll take a closer look at the parts of your Q-factor(s) that are most uncomfortable for you, and at what you’d like to be different.

Once we do that, I’ll suggest any resources that I believe can help you, whether they’re mine or someone else’s. Either way, it’s my desire to help you get the support you want and need so that You can be YOU.

There’s no cost for the Authentic YOU Breakthrough Session, and at the end of our 30 minutes together, you’ll know the best next step to take on your way to living as your real, shiny Self!

So why not go for it? All you have to do is click the button below to go to my calendar and submit your request for a Breakthrough Session by following the simple directions on the site.

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The 4 Q-factors: Full Profiles

The Compulsive Problem-Solver

You may be seen by others (and maybe even by yourself, at times) as The Champion, or The Knight in Shining Armor, because you are highly capable of handling and accomplishing so many things! You have a wide variety of interests and abilities; others may even have referred to you as a “Renaissance Wo(Man)” because of this. You are great at figuring out how to solve problems, and probably enjoy the challenge.

You may also be seen by others (and/or yourself) as The Protector. You are acutely aware of what needs to be done, and what the needs of others are (physically and/or emotionally).

This keen awareness of what needs to be done–coupled with your own awareness of your ability to meet those needs, plus a sense of responsibility to use your gifts and talents for the benefit of others–can lead to your taking on too much. You may believe that, because you can do, you must do – after all, you’ll probably be able to do whatever it is more efficiently and effectively than anyone else, right? Unfortunately, your discomfort with saying “no” to meeting some of these needs (whether you’ve been asked directly by someone to do so or you’ve simply volunteered yourself) can too easily lead to personal overload and life imbalance. These, in turn, can lead to stress-related illnesses and ailments. Just as bad, the stressful imbalance might eventually cause you to feel unappreciated, taken for granted, and resentful.

If you are sensitive to others’ emotional states—especially as they pertain to you—you may tend to take responsibility for others’ feelings. You may feel it’s up to you to alleviate their discomfort, or to falsely boost their self-esteem, or to simply “keep the peace” (which is usually just a euphemism for maintaining the status quo). All of these behaviors can come at a significant cost to your sense of who you are, requiring hiding or even negating parts of yourself in what you perceive to be service to others.

If you lead with this Q-factor, here are the most important tasks for your personal growth and well-being:

  • decrease the musts, shoulds, have-tos, and oughts that accompany the belief that if you can, you must do/don’t
  • practice asking for what you need and want; others can’t read your mind, and are not expected to anticipate what you would like
  • practice asking for help until you feel comfortable with the idea of receiving it graciously and with gratitude
The Striving Perfectionist

You prize excellence, and you are also acutely aware of the details of execution. You are able to imagine vividly the results you’d like to see, but then can feel quite frustrated or even depressed when the results don’t meet your hopes and expectations.

Your deep appreciation for what is beautiful, efficient, clever, or elegant is matched only by your irritation for what could be done to make it “better” or “perfect.” You may enjoy the brilliant sparkle of colors in a cut diamond, even as your keen attention to detail makes it impossible for you to ignore the tiny chip on one of its facets.

Most likely, you set very high standards for yourself (and perhaps others as well), and you feel that you have failed completely when you don’t meet those standards. You may even have a habit of setting–not just very high–but impossibly high standards! Others may have complained that you’re too critical or “too picky.”

Because you have great breadth and depth of ability to see possibilities and to imagine the Ideal, you are keenly aware of the discrepancy between what is and what could be. You may recognize yourself as an idealist, or as someone who used to be one. Too many experiences of disappointment may have resulted in your feeling much more cynical than idealistic—in fact, my own thought is that a cynic is really just a disappointed idealist! Unfortunately, living in a state of cynicism includes a host of other very unpleasant states and experiences, including general negativity, anger, hostility, and a sense of shame.

Even if you recognize your own gifts and talents, you may feel like a fraud or a pretender because of a tendency to compare your efforts with those who have achieved eminence in the same areas. You may also have a habit of holding a vision of unattainable perfection, making whatever assets you do have seem pathetically lacking, by comparison. You may even have a hard time listing all of your own wonderful qualities! But you’ve probably got a long list of things you are dissatisfied with about yourself…

If you lead with this Q-factor, here are the most important tasks for your personal growth and well-being:

  • balance your idealistic, perfect visions about your undertakings with a more realistic and compassionate outlook
  • practice recognizing that not every single thing you do requires your very, very best effort; get more comfortable with the gazillion shades of grey that lie between black and white
The Scattered Creative

You can appreciate the fine art of dabbling but most likely you are downright passionate about what you love to do! Don’t be misled by the “creative” moniker; it’s not limited to artistic interests and pursuits. Creativity is found in all types of innovations and imaginings.

Chances are, your creativity isn’t limited to a single area. For example, you could have real talent in music, writing, and inventing, or perhaps a combination of visual arts, dramatic arts, and “MacGyvering”! If you were to make a detailed list of all the areas in which you shine creatively, you may be inclined to fear you were overstating or overestimating your experiences. And if you were asked to share that list with someone else, you’d probably feel a bit embarrassed, and worry you’d be perceived as a braggart or a liar.

You may prefer to dive deeply into one or two of your interests or projects for a time, come up for air, then dive into a different one for a while, come up again, and so on. These are fondly known as “serial passions” if you don’t return to them, and as “on again, off again” if you do come back to them from time to time. Others may have accused you of being flakey, fickle, or uncommitted, but you know there is just so much you want to explore, and there’s only so much time in which to do it!

You probably have lots of “project piles” in your work or living space – each pile containing materials, supplies, and various drafts of planning or stages of completion. Sometimes you look at those piles and wonder if you’ll ever get to finish the ones you’ve already begun…and yet, you’re always thinking about something new that you’d love to start as soon as possible!

Because you have such a vivid imagination, you may have a clear vision of the process of your creating, if not the final result. When things don’t go accordingly, you may feel very discouraged and frustrated.

You may have a love-hate relationship with Time. Time is measured and finite, yet your experience of creativity feels limitless. You like to spend as much time as possible in your chosen activities, but those pesky details of everyday life keep sucking time away from them, unless you ignore those tasks and deadlines… or they just slip away from you.

Most people enjoy sharing the products of their creative endeavors, and you probably do, too. However, there may be creative thoughts, ideas, or even finished products that are so deeply personal to you, it’s harder—or barely possible—for you to share them with the world. What if your idea or creation were to be rejected, dismissed, or trivialized? The very possibility may seem too painful, so you may just keep them tucked away.

If you lead with this Q-factor, here are the most important tasks for your personal growth and well-being:

  • allow yourself plenty of opportunities to express your creativity, in both large and small ways
  • be more compassionate to yourself when your creative attempts fall short of your vision, so that you can either try again or simply appreciate the experience for what it was
  • practice making peace with Time: when is it necessary and when is it irrelevant to acknowledge the passage of time as very important to your creative process and production?
The Hidden Visionary

You probably discovered long ago that your way of perceiving or understanding things is rather uncommon. There may have been many times in your life when this realization stopped you short, and you wondered why you seemed so different from others. You may have worried that there was something “wrong” with you.

You have an easy and natural ability to see the Big Picture. When you are learning something new, you probably like to learn about whatever comprises it within the larger context, rather than as piecemeal or step-by-step bits of information or skills.

You certainly aren’t inept when it comes to considering and managing details, but when you start to feel crowded or pressed by them, you tend to feel overwhelmed and may shut down, mentally and emotionally.

Of all the Q-factors, this one is the most likely to cause you to feel like a “misfit.” You probably know of others who seem to perceive Life, The Universe, and Everything in ways similar to the way you do, but you might not have actually met others like you. It’s likely that you’ve pondered existential matters frequently since childhood: Who am I? Why am I here? What is my biggest purpose in this life? You may be prone to existential depression and worry that either you will not discover your Purpose or that you will fail to accomplish it.

Maybe you have secretly felt there is a special, larger-than-life part of yourself that’s not safe to show to others. You may have been afraid to examine this aspect very closely, even for yourself. (We’re not talking here about the delusions of grandeur that are sometimes seen in psychosis—though you may have been afraid of this very possibility, or of being seen by others as mentally ill.) If you have experienced this, you may feel torn between an insistent drive to discover and embrace it, and a fear of what might be the result of that embrace. The result is an ongoing tension between the wish to feel safe by appearing “small and ordinary,” and the deep desire to live as your fullest Self.

If you lead with this Q-factor, here are the most important tasks for your personal growth and well-being:

  • seek out the means for your own emotional healing
  • practice being open to and accepting support from others who can help you
  • overcome your fears about living authentically as yourself, and then do so!